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If there ever was a time we wanted to scream “NO!” it would be now.
While it may seem like there’s no harm in posting a sex video on the internet, it could actually haunt you for years to come…in ways that you probably haven’t even thought of, yet.
Say for example, you land an interview at your “dream” company. It’s standard practice to search the web for a candidate’s name. Nothing is off limits, including Facebook, MySpace and Twitter. And when they eventually find your video, you’re going to be the last person they want to hire (unless of course you’re auditioning for the porn industry. Then this video might come in handy).
Then there are circumstances like Grandma doing a Google search for the family tree, old friends from college trying to reconnect with you, and your boyfriend’s parents trying to find your address and finding this instead…The list could go on and on.
The point is that although it can be exhilarating to make video of the two of you having sex and use it during other fun times, it won’t be fun to have it on the internet forever. Once it’s posted, you’ll have NO control over who sees it, who uses it, and they use it. There is no way to change your mind, nor is there any way to get it back. And nothing remains anonymous.
Sometimes it feels exciting to do things that are daring, edgy and bold. But the bottom line is that you always have control. Control means you call the last shot, you use a safe word, you make an agreement, and in this case especially, control means having an understanding between you and your lover. It is all about keeping your power and at the same time enjoying your sexual self.
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That’s only the case if your real name is somehow attached to the video.
You can, with some careful planning, mitigate any and all “oh my grandma might find it!” issues. There are communities such as Fetlife that are safe, understanding, and fun places to share these kinds of anonymous indulgences.
My advice would be: Sure, if you’re careful and smart about it.
I’d agree with Brian if the question were, “I really want to post a video of my boyfriend and I having sex online. How can I do that?”
“Should I let him…” has a slightly different tone, tho.
Nice advice…I think I’m going to go destroy those videos I have now…I mean, when I get to be famous, I definitely don’t want any old flings black mailing me with those things!
I think unless you want anyone to see the video, you shouldn’t let him post it. If you get off on other people getting off on you getting off, then by all means, you have every right to agree…