What is the best way to resist cheating?

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Everyone experiences sexual desire and sexual attraction, whether they are in a relationship or not.  These feelings are normal, natural, and fine to have, but it’s what we do with these feelings that matter.

 People cheat for lots of different reasons: They’re away from their partner, they have a fear of rejection, they no longer want to be in the relationship they are in, they are in lust and love with more than one person (more on this on an upcoming post), their judgment is impaired from drugs/alcohol, etc. etc. The list goes on and on.

Unfortunately, Fidelity for Dummies has not yet been written, so the best we can do is to offer you some tips. Here are 10 ways to avoid cheating:

1. Don’t put yourself in a position where you could easily act on your feeling. Being alone or making plans with your crush is just asking for trouble. Avoid it at all costs!
2. Never admit to your crush that you’re attracted to them. You may think that you’re merely getting something off your chest by doing this. The reality is that you’re sending your crush the wrong message.
3. If you have to be in the same room as the attraction bring a blindfold. :) Not such a horrible idea…
4. Don’t tell too many people about your attraction. And if you find you’re told three or more people then it’s time to tell your boyfriend or girlfriend.  
5. Ask yourself if you are really happy in your current relationship. If not, talk to your partner.
6. Think about what you want in a relationship. What does your ideal boyfriend/girlfriend look like in your mind? Knowing what you really want can keep you loyal.
7. Ask yourself if you’re letting your brain, your heart or your genitals rule the day.
8. Know the way you think about lust, like, and love.   They are all very different.
9. Think about the consequences. There always are consequences when cheating is involved. Will it be worth it?
10. Think about your partner. How will your actions make them feel? How would you feel if the roles were reversed?

If none of these tips work , and you find yourself cheating anyway, then it’s probably time to talk with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s also probably time to GYT (Get Yourself Tested for STDs) since you’re with a new partner.

Do you have a favorite song about cheating? Let us know by leaving your suggestion below. Then check back on Tuesday as we count down the greatest songs about infidelity.

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