We get lots of questions from readers and do our best to answer them on the blog. If you have a question for Laci, you can ask her here.
“im a virgin and i hate being one. how am i supposed to lose it? im 16 years old and im looking for a girl. i hate being a virgin and if i do have sex idk if the girl thinks i suck and if i have a small penis.”
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin! There’s a lot of pressure, especially for guys, to have sex ASAP. Because of the expectation for guys to be macho and manly, they sometimes feel like they need to prove themselves by having sex. What this pressure ends up doing is stressing you out for no reason (*hinthint!*) and setting the stage for some unhealthy and unsatisfying sexual exchanges.
You will have sex at some point. It could be soon, it could be a little ways down the road. Try to be patient and eventually your time will come. In the meantime, if you feel sexually frustrated you might find some relief in masturbation. I also wouldn’t worry about your partner thinking you’re not good enough. Girls feel the same way too! (What if he thinks I’m ugly naked? What if he thinks my boobs look weird?) If you can, try to put your insecurities on the backburner so you can fully enjoy yourself. Even if your penis is smaller than average, size isn’t a very important factor in sexual pleasure. It’s like the saying goes: “it’s not about the size of the boat, it’s about the motion of the ocean”. You will still be able to help your partner feel awesomeeeee!